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All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 11:13 am
by Sir Henry
Many of you know my wife of 42 years had terminal cancer. Her battle ended a few weeks ago and I find myself all alone. Never thought I would be in this position. Don't know what else to say.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 11:23 am
by North Country Gal
Gene, words just seem so inadequate at these times, but nevertheless, our heartfelt condolences. As for being alone, just remember that you have all of us here on this and other forums, my good friend.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 11:27 am
by clovishound
So sorry to hear that. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

I know it is trite, but the pain will diminish. Life will get better.

Hang in there buddy.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 11:43 am
by Deadwood Dutch
I have often thought what I would do if it happened to me as I will soon be married for 48 years. I suppose that those thoughts occur to many of us as we age and have spent so many years together, as opposed to when we were young and this was the furtherest thing from our mind. Once again, I can only assume, but I believe that each individual handles it differently to a certain extent. You like to hike and be with your friends there, and I suppose you have other interests but I am sure that this is overwhelming at times. But please be assured that you also have many friends here, even if we can't actually sit down and chat face to face. Stay involved with outside interests and some people I understand, even find a support group. All that being said, I still wish to extend my deepest sympathy and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Just take care of yourself and stay healthy.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 11:56 am
by JEBar
I don't know any words that can relate to how very, very sad I am to hear this .... can only say you are in our thoughts and prayers

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 11:56 am
by CT_Shooter
Gene,
You have my very deepest sympathy. I hope you are filled with courage as you work your lonely way forward toward peace of mind, heart, and soul.

Sadly, I know first hand how difficult it has been for both of you. My sweet wife of 43 years also has terminal cancer. Loving her is the easiest thing I've ever done; losing her will be the hardest. I cannot even imagine it.

Take good care of yourself.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 12:13 pm
by Bish1309
Very sorry to hear of this. No, I didn't know.

Wishing you the best and the strength to continue on.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 12:19 pm
by Sir Henry
I have really sad moments but I'm also looking for a life without Donna. She released me about a year ago. Her mother died of cancer when she was 21 and her mom was barely 50. Her mom made her dad promise her he would never remarry and that caused a lot of problems because he was barely 60 years old. A few years later the kids (my wife) told their dad they did not hold him to that promise and he remarried soon after and lived another 34 years.

I didn't like being released at the time but now understand why she did it. I never would have been able to move on and she knew it. So my current life has been planned. I'm remodeling the house and making it mine and not ours. I'm keeping only a few cherished items and gave away a lot of furniture.

So if you see me posting causally about new floor please understand why.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 12:20 pm
by Sir Henry
CT_Shooter wrote:Gene,
You have my very deepest sympathy. I hope you are filled with courage as you work your lonely way forward toward peace of mind, heart, and soul.

Sadly, I know first hand how difficult it has been for both of you. My sweet wife of 43 years also has terminal cancer. Loving her is the easiest thing I've ever done; losing her will be the hardest. I cannot even imagine it.

Take good care of yourself.
At times I wanted to be the one that was dying.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 12:34 pm
by Les
Gene, I am truly sorry to hear that news. I really don't know what to say, except try to take strength from your family and friends. :(

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 1:15 pm
by RanchRoper
You are in my family's thoughts and prayers. Lean on the people you can when you need to, but also know that we are all much stronger than we can ever know. Quiet reflection alone is also necessary to grieve. Bless you and your loved ones.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 2:47 pm
by Hitman
Thoughts and prayers Sir Henry.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 4:45 pm
by ditto1958
Gene, please accept my deepest condolences. I don't know what to tell you, except that it will get better. Slowly, yes very slowly, but it does get better. We never stop missing those who go before we do, but somehow time has a way of healing.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 4:53 pm
by DWD445
VERY sorry to hear this Gene.
Good memories help a lot !!
Prayers, Dave

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 5:58 pm
by Steve51
Very sorry for your loss. Sorry you have to go through this.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 6:23 pm
by ace73
So sorry to hear this Gene. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 7:05 pm
by Catherine
SH,

You have my sincere condolences.

Take care of yourself.

Sincerely,

Cate

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 7:25 pm
by Cowboy Gun Fan
I'm also truly sorry. I knew of the sickness, but also had no idea.

Keep strong.

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 7:35 pm
by daytime dave
Gene,

You have my sincerest condolences. I have sent you a PM.

You are both still in my thoughts daily. I hope you are healing as best as possible.

Take care my friend.

Dave

Re: All Alone Now

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 7:43 pm
by bandit1250
Very sorry to hear of your loss. It will take time to heal after being together all those years. Remember that you have every member on here as a friend when needed. Take care and God bless.